10 January 2019

Episode 8: Manners and polite behavior in the pet dog world

In this episode of Blake's takes Blake tells you what it takes to help your dog become a polite and well mannered dog.

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dream-come-true canine and on this episode of Blake stakes where we talk all things dog training in the pet dog world we're gonna be talking good manners and polite behavior can we really expect dogs to be polite if we never teach them manners in the first place now I forgot how this topic came about but I started thinking and I started noticing that there were some dogs that just happen to be good you don't see it too often but they're just they're just not pushy around food they're very respectful of space they're not jumping up on people they're not pulling on the leash they're not barking when the doorbell rings um they're they just happen to be good off leash and now some of you guys might have a dog that has maybe a couple of those but not all of them it's very rare when you just have a dog that happens to be well-mannered across the board now I started thinking well if I want a dog to be well-mannered and if a dog is pushy and rude and a dog is beat obnoxious and a dog is barking at the doorbell and a dog is pulling on leash and a dog is doing all these inappropriate things can we really

expect them to be polite in everyday real-world situations when we've never taught them manners in the first place now for me what I started thinking about was growing up as a as a kid now I'm not gonna say that I grew up in a savage household I definitely had manners I knew how to say please and thank you but I didn't know that you had to stick your pinky out anytime you drank tea um I didn't know um I mean I guess I knew bad know that some people are very strict about elbows on the table when you're eating dinner you know and I also look at some kids that are brought up in rougher situations and I was that come up in a household where it's just cursing 24/7 and and and they're able to to you know flick snot on the wall and do all these things I don't know I'm just sort of giving examples here um a lot of those kids don't know that they're being inappropriate or they're being rude or if they say something in public because they're used to saying it around their family but now they go somewhere and people are I can't believe you just said that and he's like what that's how we talk in our household the kid doesn't really know any better

because those manners and those rules and well mannered behavior and how to be proper was never really taught to him so if you look at it from that point of view I find a lot of dog owners are getting very frustrated with their dogs expecting them to know these things but yet not putting in the time and effort to teach these things prior to when you need it so it's gonna be a really short episode but the really short topic the thing that I want to bring up that's super super important is a lot of you guys are expecting too much you're expecting your dog to not pull you on leash but you're never really taught it how to walk nicely you're expecting your dog not to bark at the doorbell but you never really taught it how you're you're expecting the dog to not steal food off the countertop but you never really taught it how and and understanding how to teach these things is really really important we're gonna get into this in just a second um you've taught it how to sit you've taught it how to lay down you've taught it how to do all these things but when something distracting is there we haven't spent time tutoring the

dog from doing what it might be doing that's inappropriate the reality is that many dogs are pushy many dogs are rude many dogs don't understand personal space and and aren't respectful of other dog space and human space and the reality is most dogs that have poor social skills with other dogs can be directly related to the social skills that we have with the human or that is that is allowed with the human often a lot of times pushy behavior for affection being pushy to get stuff doing all of those things um translates and a dog goes hey this is how I communicate with with my group and what happens is maybe that dog hits it off in a dog park maybe that dog hits it off with another dog that is also equal and they love it and they love it and they go 100 percent every time they see them but all that that dog knows is when it sees dogs and when it sees people it loves how to be pushy and then it starts to run into the wrong types of dogs at the dog parks the shy dog hates it and snaps at it all the time the the dog that likes to play but doesn't wants to kind of take a break has to snap at his

dog and these dogs are getting kicked out a deke here or fights are starting with your dog and you can't figure these things out so really really important is that if you want your dog to be well-mannered in all areas of your life start holding them accountable for how pushy they might be and how respectful they are around space and around objects and around food now this brings us to a really really interesting topic that should segue into the next episode of Blake's takes and this topic is understanding what it is that you're trying to solve and what it is that you're trying to do um when it comes to dog behavior now what I mean by that is there are kind of two sides to the coin and often people are leaving out one of them and what I mean by this is if you have a dog that is stealing things off of this coffee table here you should spend time teaching it what it should be doing instead one hundred percent all right this is preferable make sure that's easy make sure they have no problem doing that instead if that's an issue get really good at that first teach a dog what is more desirable and try to build that habit but when we have

a dog that now knows how to do that but is still making the mistake the reality is you cannot reinforce the problem away what reinforcement does is it increases the likelihood and a dog repeating the behavior now you can reinforce a better choice and a better habit but if you're not addressing the problem you often might have a dog that knows how to make one choice and still can choose how to make the other choice if it feels like it in order to deter a dog from doing something you must punish it now before you go oh my gosh I'd never punished my dog understand what a scientific definition of what punishment is this is very very important the punishment is anything that you do that will decrease the likelihood in the dog repeating the behavior so technically there is no way for you to stop this is science this behavior there's no way for you to decrease the likelihood in the dog repeating this behavior unless you punish it so there are two ways to punish we can remove something that is pleasant and in some situations that does work or we can add something unpleasant in a situation where a dog is

running up and stealing food off of the coffee table removing or Treat in your hand that the dog is not interested in at the moment is not going to be an effective punishment because the dog doesn't want it all right and some people will say well you asked for a higher treat value you do all these things and in some situations in learning beginning stages that makes sense but it's very unrealistic when what the dog wants is more important than what you have this is a reality you want to Train in a way where you're more important you want to train in a way where where you are the biggest distraction and you are the most valuable thing to your dog but you will not always be sometimes that might be temporary right so in situations like this in order to punish you have to add something unpleasant now often what people will say is in a situation where a dog is making a mistake we're going to redirect them simply giving them something more appropriate so if the dog is taking things off the coffee table and chewing them up we're going to give it something that it can chew on all right now there

is value to this but if you are not aware of your timing you can actually be reinforcing the very behavior that you're trying to fix this is what I'm going to get into on the next episode of blake steaks