13 February 2018

Minors in DDLG/BDSM || Little Strawberry

Hi, everyone! Today's video is about a very difficult and polarizing subject in the BDSM world right now, especially in DDLG: minors in kink. Please do leave your ...

hi everyone its Barry and welcome to

today's discussion video in this video I wanted to talk about minors and kink and BDSM but more specifically DDL G or the more broader inclusive term cgl minors Inc Inc is such a polarizing topic in the kink community at the moment when really it shouldn't be BDSM despite its taste for the gray areas in life has always been very black and white when it comes to its core values and regulations for participation there have always been rather strict guidelines for best practices in the BDSM community enter minors and their supporters these people are advocating for minors to have the right to engage in BDSM even with partners that are significantly older than them the arguments are usually misinformed hardly intelligible garbled nonsense such as these screenshots I took up actual comments here on YouTube many minors believe that the adult kink community is bashing them by excluding them from the community and advising others to do so as well while I can agree in the test that some of these adults have been very hurtful and mean-spirited when giving feedback I can also understand where the frustration comes from when you've given

all the answers to the point of exhaustion to minors that just refuse to listen and learn a bad attitude can begin to form this is what inspired me to make this video so I can reference it when the questions have become overwhelming to the point that I feel like screaming at my computer issue number one is age of consent versus age and majority miners and their supporters will cite the age of consent in their country state or province in response to many King stares not allowing interaction with the community under the age of 18 and while this is a worthy argument it still does not hold up on its own due to the very nature of the public and legal view that BDSM is held under because BDSM is inherently a kink in fetish as well as it's subset that has gained so much popularity dlg it is viewed as an adult 18 plus subject matter just like the ratings on a porn site which are video games and other content that is legally unsuitable for minors to consume or / taken even though a young man or woman is 16 years old and has reached age of consent for sex in their respective state province or country it

still does not mean that same 16 year old can participate in porn why because that is under the law creating and distributing child pornography the same goes for BDSM your Instagram tumblr and snapchat accounts of you posing and sexually suggestive and even sexually explicit positions is partaking in the act of creating and distributing child pornography this is a serious legal offense that has real-world repercussions any adult that views the content you are creating could be criminally convicted if that information improve had ever somehow gotten into the hands of the police or a concerned parent or guardian to interact with and partake in the DDL g or BDSM community you must be 18 years of age or older issue number two is non-sexual versus sexual an argument I see in here often is this well my daddy and I don't have sex and it's all non-sexual so you can't tell us that we can't do this this argument is especially irritating to me BDSM and DDL G are not inherently sexual kinks and fetishes are not inherently sexual that you don't belong here argument doesn't end with whether it is

or isn't a sexual activity for you although the sex definitely adds another more complex layer of danger due to the fear of pregnancy or STI s and legal repercussion DB LG is BDSM it is a kink and it is a fetish it is also a lifestyle that can and does incorporate many other aspects just because you find sex fetish and kink disgusting doesn't mean you have the right to change the definitions of a community that's been around for far longer than you've even been alive the definition of DDL G is not up for discussion it is due to the power extremes that you participate in in a DDL G relationship a caregiver is a dominant a little is a submissive the little willingly consents to a power exchange with their caregiver usually in the form of roles rewards and punishments this is dangerous because you are allowing another person to make and carry out decisions for you you lose a sense of autonomy when you engage in a Power Exchange as a minor you don't even have the right without a parents consent to enter a giveaway raffle on YouTube for a slime lucky pack but you think you have the right to consent to a Power Exchange DD LG relationship issue number

three is misinformation and incorrect labels when it comes to misinformation in the D dlg community specifically I can definitely sympathize it's not the minors fault that there are adults in the community that are spreading false and damaging information this is where the responsibility in my opinion does fall on us if the DD LG community is going to create content on what a platform that you choose they also have to take responsibility for the people that are consuming that content and are recreating or learning from it people who refuse to take a stance are part of the problem you don't want to alienate minors I understand I don't want to alienate them either but as an adult you need to take responsibility for your actions and what may come of them if we ever want minors to do the same age regression age play and D dlg are all very separate entities that can and do intertwine for the sake of time I won't be defining these terms but I will make a separate video going over common terms and acronyms in the community to clear up a large chunk of the confusion the reason I mentioned that there is a distinction regarding these terms is

that minors and adults alike seem to use them interchangeably as if they all mean the same thing I'm here to tell you they most certainly are not the same things you can't call yourself an age regressor if you're not regressing minors and adults use this to label minors that are interested in D dlg but claim they are non-sexual or don't have a caregiver as if age regression is the minor friendly first stop before full-on tlg this cannot be further from the truth and it damages those in the age regression community that do not wish to partake in nor witness kink related content or ideology another issue I have with this is minors that use the terms little and little space with claim they have no involvement in BDSM if you are involved in BDSM why are you using terms from the BDSM community as labels for yourself why do you feel the need to take something that is already well established as what it is if you're not a little why do you call yourself one for aesthetic because it's cute would you call yourself a writer if you were actually a painter it's completely ridiculous that's how we in the community feel you claim you're not what

you've labeled yourself as it's disingenuous and leads us to believe something else is afoot the spread of misinformation and incorrect labeling must come to an end thank you all for listening and I hope I was able to shed at least a little light on such a difficult topic if you have any other discussion topics you'd like to see me cover or if you have anything you'd like to add to this one just leave me a comment down below or send me a message on my tumblr which you can find a link to in the description I will see you all next time bye